If you have found your way to my biography, you are probably curious about who I am, what is my background, why I coach and what do I have to offer you as your coach?
I’m happily married to the love of my life, Sherry. I’ve also been divorced and widowed with long-term relationships in-between. Experience has taught me that having a successful relationship is challenging. Communication breaks down when we aren’t clear about our own goals and needs. Even then, while you may use the same words, they can have different meanings to your partner. I’ve found that coaching can target specific situations and help to find our own solutions so we can move forward. Women can benefit from gaining a mans perspective. And men, well, we need all the help we can get.
I was a salesman for over 35 years before retiring in 2008. Success in sales requires perseverance, discipline, curiosity, communication and, most importantly, the ability to listen. Since retiring, these skills have served me well in working with men, women, and teens that have been affected by alcoholism, addiction, relationship problems, career change, business and especially in my own personal relationships. Nothing I’ve done in the past has been more emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually uplifting than the work I’ve done with other people.
The first 2 times I tried to retire weren’t pretty. I found myself with an extra 50 plus hours a week and I had no idea or plan for how to fill that time. The people I had worked with for over 25 years were no longer there. When I got up in the morning, I had no purpose. Without going into detail, freedom to do nothing became a burden rather than the pot of gold at the end of a long career. Going back to work wasn’t an answer for me either. I needed to find ways to fill my time; ways that were fulfilling, rewarding, and satisfying.
It took a lot of effort, both internally and in the outside world, to find a place for myself in retirement. No longer “needing” to earn a living to pay the bills, I realized that the focus of my time was much more personal. Who was I? What were the limitations I put on myself with preconceived notions? When did I say “no” when I could have said “yes”? What were my values? What was it in my career that I found rewarding? How could I find similar rewards in retirement? How will I spend this new time with my wife? These were just some of the many questions that I had time and reason to explore.
I know now that my transition into retirement would have been physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually easier if I had a coach. My experience retiring will not be the same as yours. Each of us has our own path. However, what I’ve learned gives me a better idea of the questions to ask, as you explore the possibilities available in the last quarter or more of your life.
There are thousands of books written to help us work through potential pitfalls in relationships, however, none of them are written specifically for you or me. Experience has taught me that the answers to who I am and how I play in life lies within my core. The same is true for you as well. We each have our own personal path and the richness of the journey is directly proportional to the level of and quality of our participation in our own lives.
I’ve been certified as a coach by iPEC (Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching) and a Master Practitioner for the Energy Leadership Index (ELI). Certification entails hundreds of hours of training in the tools and skills necessary to be an effective advocate for your personal growth. As your coach, I will partner with you to open up your thinking to actions you may be hesitant to take or options that you may never have even thought of. We’ll work together in exploring your strengths and weaknesses in order to grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
If you are truly interested in exploring your potential and moving through the barriers that have stood in your way, get a coach. Investing in your growth, at any stage of your life, IS the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself. Say yes to yourself and call me for a complimentary session. All it will cost you is 30 minutes of your time.